DO SCARY THINGS.
I’ve heard this mantra a million times and it’s never really hit me like it has this year.
you have to push aside fear, risk failure and get comfortable with being uncomfortable in order to truly live a life worthy of great things.
I’m taking on not ONE, but TWO ventures this year that scare the actual shit out of me. not just scared as in ‘oh things might not go the way I want them to’, but scared as in puke my guts out because I don’t know what to expect nor can I predict the outcome.
the funny thing about me (and maybe you can relate to this) is that I live for control. I am a control freak to a freaking T. I feel anxious if I don’t have full control of a situation or it’s outcome, or if I can’t see far enough into the future to GUESS how likely success is. it’s been a learning experience for me to see that fault in myself and take steps to change it.
you see, control is a silly little illusion. the thought of it lets us believe we have power…and when we feel in power, we feel a sense of control, are you with me still?
I am learning to let go of my need for control. attempting to get comfortable being uncomfortable. the thing is, is that control is EXACTLY what I stated in the sentence prior to this one. it’s an illusion. there are not many things in life we have full control over, the biggest of those things being life itself. we can’t control what happens to us in terms of how life pans out. I believe that what is meant to be will be. but listen up because there are a few things we absolutely CAN control, and these few things have the POWER to change the course of our lives.
your words + your actions. you are the ONLY person that can control these two things. what you think, what you say and what you do is one hundred percent up to you and only you. your words to yourself are powerful ones. instead of being critical about our choices, our actions or even our looks, why don’t we try a little harder to be kind + loving instead? how you speak to and treat others is your choice as well. I firmly believe that when we CHOOSE to take control of these things, life is far more likely to turn out as we intend. speak + show love + kindness and your life will be full of those things.
your mindset. if there is one wish for my life, it would be that I would have learned about mindset a lot sooner than in my 30s. and if there’s anyone reading this now that knew me even just three short years ago, you know just how different of a person I am now because of this knowledge. mindset, in the simplest of terms, is the way in which you view life. having a growth mindset (the belief that you are in control of your own life, success, growth and always able to learn, grow and achieve more) is the key to success. sure, hard work, effort, and persistence are all important, but not as important as having that underlying belief that you are in control of your own destiny. understanding mindset, FACING THE FACT that mine was fixed for a really freaking long time, and taking the continuous steps to switch it has changed my life in more ways than I can explain here on this already-too-wordy post.
I can’t control the outcome of these two exciting new ventures I’m about to embark in (you will learn more about them very soon, trust me), but I can control the thoughts in my head and the words I speak about them. they are going to change my life in ways I can’t even foresee, and THAT my friends, is what life is all about.